Reilly Hirst: I have come finally to the conclusion that sexuality is not inherent in gendered roles, but is instead linked to the power of life longing for itself. However we have built a model of sexuality, once again a set of assumptions, that if I look a certain way and portray a “masculine” role to your “feminine” role then we can “assume” from our interaction markers of desire. These markers both mask the vulnerability inherent in dating and, by utilizing previous history and connections, create an easy entrée into attraction and arousal. More here.